This is why kids act out

0:00 I tell all parents that yelling at your kids screaming at them punishing them isn't going to stop the behavior it's just going to suppress the bad behavior but that behavior will show up somewhere else what you are going to stop is the connection they have with you what you are going to stop is the trust that the child has in itself or in you or the feeling the child has that it is safe with you yes you will stop that in order

0:30 to stop bad behavior you need to think of how to transform it Behavior cannot be stopped by yelling or being told to stop something it needs to be transformed which means you need to teach the child an alternate behavior in the moment and you have to have compassion for that empathy children only act out because of three reasons number one their brain isn't developed yet so they don't know how to regulate how to express how to articulate how to

0:58 wait how to share number two they haven't had enough life experience so they don't have the experience to know that it takes 6 hours to study for an exam they thought it takes 3 hours or they forgot their book bag or they don't know how money works because they haven't lived long enough number three they don't feel worthy they feel afraid to fail because uh their self-worth isn't strong enough yet once you realize this then you can deal with the

1:24 underlying reasons why children act out you can help them you can embody you can teach them you can educate get them