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If you are an over-giver, watch this!

Dr. Shefali · 2m · transcribed May 2026
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0:00 this is for all you over givers out there one of my greatest teachings greatest Awakenings came from this one awareness I cannot give what I do not have for myself I was constantly in this chronic pattern of saying yes to everybody else over giving to them when I was in lack scarcity and deprivation myself I was giving them without giving myself until

0:32 I learned you cannot give what you do not have and when I made that one pivot to First feed myself emotionally first to give myself and take care of myself and then give others from a place of abundance Surplus excess everything changed in my life until that awareness I was giving to the point of burnout to the point of exhaustion and to the point of being used abused and manipulated by others it was only when I made that

1:01 shift that my whole life changed are you an over Giver are you at the point of burnout feeling used abused and manipulated well then stop waiting for the other to stop taking see this is what we give us do we just wait for the other to stop taking no it's not their job to stop taking it's your job to stop giving what you do not have this is what you owe yourself this is how you show self-love this is how

1:32 you protect the other from being an exploiter right and I know it's not your job to protect anyone but do not allow people to exploit you because it's not good for them so in all ways giving yourself first taking care of your own well-being first is healing for yourself and others begin to examine am I saying yes am I over giving when I don't even have for myself this one awareness will change your

2:02 entire life

Summary

The speaker emphasizes the importance of self-care for those who tend to over-give, highlighting that one cannot provide for others without first nurturing oneself. By recognizing this pattern of giving from a place of lack, individuals can shift to a mindset of abundance, leading to healthier relationships and personal well-being.

- Over-giving often leads to burnout, exhaustion, and feeling exploited.
- The realization that "you cannot give what you do not have" is crucial for personal transformation.
- Prioritizing self-care and emotional well-being is essential before helping others.
- It's not others' responsibility to stop taking; it's up to the giver to set boundaries.
- Self-love involves protecting oneself from being exploited, which ultimately benefits both parties.
- Reflect on whether you are saying yes to others at the expense of your own needs.
- Making this shift can significantly improve your life and relationships.