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0:00 I don't know one baby who came out of the womb thinking I feel like I can't scream [music] at 2 a.m. for [laughter] food. It just >> I need to think about other people. >> I don't know. Like when my friends scream and I don't is this too much? And no, you know, babies are first for me at 2:00 a.m. at 4:00 a.m. at 10 p.m. They don't care. Okay. And by the way, that's adaptive because if a baby was always thinking about a parent's needs, they wouldn't scream. No waking up at 2 a.m.
0:30 being like, I'm just going to check if the baby needs to eat again. And so being first comes from an adaptive evolutionary place. Most of us women went from I wear my personal needs and desires on my sleeve to my personal needs and desires are scary or I don't even know where they are. I always tell people they're in there. You wouldn't have survived without personal needs. And yes, it's a balance of of course there's times we all don't do me first cuz we have to go, you know, do something for other people. That's just what it means to be in a healthy relationship. But so many of us have lost the first for
Summary
- Babies instinctively prioritize their needs, serving as a model for self-advocacy.
- Women often shift from expressing personal needs to feeling guilty or unsure about them.
- This change can stem from societal expectations and the need to care for others.
- Acknowledging personal needs is crucial for survival and emotional health.
- Healthy relationships involve a balance between self-care and caring for others.
- Many women may feel disconnected from their own desires due to external pressures.
- Reclaiming the "me first" mentality can lead to better overall well-being.