VIRAL WISDOM #66: THIS IS THE TIME TO WAKE UP .

0:02 hello everyone hi guys how are you i'm happy to be here it's sunday and the day i typically try to do my viral wisdom little thing that i do and this is class number or session number 66 66 times since um the pandemic began so how is everyone

0:33 tell me how you're doing pop in a comment just check in with me how are people doing in terms of their homeschooling and how that is going with their children what's a word you would use to describe your current emotional state and tell me where your where you're calling from or where you're checking in from what's one word that would describe your emotional state hi henry laura supriya

1:05 i see you all signing in i have facebook and instagram open right now so um to be here with all of you just waiting for a few more people to sign in before i delve in deeper so what's one word that you would use to describe your situation fatigue anxiety sad covet fatigue fragile calmness to see me from new

1:37 jersey present um lots of big big big big big big feelings i know so um today i'd just like to begin with some great news on my end a book that i wrote with my dear friend reeni jane is out it's been out i think for a week it's already debuted at the new york times instant bestseller number three on the new york times it's

2:08 also been on the usa today uh topping the top 100 so buy your book super powered you can go to my website dr shafari.com forward slash super power the link will be posted here grab your copy it is the book of the times to teach parents and children although it's written for kids every parent should read it to learn how to teach anxiety management coping skills transformation of fears

2:40 into courage all that good stuff in this fabulous book called super powered order it go to your indie bookstore go to amazon go to my website get the book super powered so we're really super excited because you know as you all feel we are in this heavy big emotion zone as a globe and so much stuff is coming up for

3:11 so many people we've experienced loss we've experienced change we've experienced death we've experienced transition guilt sadness disconnection dysphoria there is so much big stuff coming to the surface because this is what crisis do crisis does this crisis brings up the rawest emotions because all the cover-up defenses that you have been

3:42 used to right now are not working anymore i always say as a therapist that the only way people change is when they hit rock bottom and what does rock bottom mean rock bottom means that the usual defenses the usual you know cover-ups not working anymore and you are naked you are raw you are real for the first time perhaps because you see yourself in the mirror

4:14 without embellishment without the mask without the makeup without the head eye and you have to confront who are you in the mirror you know in a state of anxiety in an age of anxiety i think we've been in an age of anxiety for the past decade at least especially since social media came about that there was a meteoric rise in anxiety and in an age of anxiety

4:45 it is typical for us to do one of two things we either withdraw and become apathetic listless and depressed or we react in rage anger and out of control reactivity we eat too much drink too much yell too much scream too much punish other people blame other people and we get addicted to something on the outside we look at something on the outside as the linchpin rescue uh salve you know that on the outside is

5:16 going to rescue me so we either blame the other till they rescue us or we get angry with the other till they change so we think that now we can be rescued we look at something on the outside as the core or we blame ourselves and we become withdrawn and depressed blaming other blaming self blaming other blaming self this is what we do when we are anxious when we are anxious we vomit outside or we vomit inside so you have to decide

5:46 if you're doing one of these two things i am seeing people in my life vomiting all over the place either outside or inside either it's going to make you sick because you're suppressing it and it's eating you up from the inside or you're going to destroy something on the outside you're going to sabotage your work you're going to be late in a project you're going to yell and scream at your significant other going to yell at your children you're

6:13 going to either disconnect on the outside or disconnect on the inside so why don't you pop in a comment and tell me which one have you been doing if you've been doing anything dysfunctional is it inward or is it outward i would love to hear and see what your pattern is inner destruction or outer disconnection so this is what happens when you're in anxiety so you have to recognize whoa i am

6:43 decompressing i am discombobulating i am coming apart and now you know that it's because of anxiety anxiety causes so much inner perturbation that you seek control and you either shut down from inside or you shut out from outside you scream outward or you scream inward so the delusion in the mind when you're anxious

7:14 is that it is really something on the outside that's causing this something on the outside is causing this or you blame yourself something on the inside is causing this and you seek to create a solution eating yelling screaming drinking i'm saying this over and over so it clicks with you anxiety on the inside causes a perturbation and causes a reaction either inward or outward and then that reaction

7:45 can show up in different ways eating drinking yelling screaming procrastinating gambling um starving yourself over binging over spending or inward it looks like apathy listlessness procrastination depression panic attacks phobia paralysis so i'm covering all the gamut to show you that it's your time to wake up and go whoa

8:16 i am disoriented on the inside i am really unequilibrated on the inside my equilibrium is falling apart my inner stability is really messed up and the beautiful thing if you're awake is that your outer world begins to show you your inner disequilibrium you have bills that are strewn unpaid your boss is upset with you at work

8:46 your partner is not talking to your children are upset with you many signs like this on the outside give you an opportunity to wake up to go whoa you know what am i creating what on the inside needs to be woken up needs to be realigned because my outer world is totally showing me that i am out of sync my weighing machine is

9:17 showing me that i'm putting on weight my skin is showing me that i'm falling apart i don't have time to do my work i'm behind deadline i am acting out my boss my friends my family these are signs you know one time something on the outside can get messed up you can go you know what it's them second time something myself you can go it's them but how much can you keep pointing the finger to go it's them it's them it's them when

9:44 are we going to wake up and go you know maybe it's me maybe i am creating a domino effect that i'm pushing the external world to fall apart around me and who suffers we suffer so when are we going to wake up taking full accountability for our own co-creation in all things we manifest this is the only way to turn our life around now in a situation like what we're going through right now it's a show

10:16 right it's like wherever i turn it's confusion it's disarray it's mayhem you don't know who to believe you don't know what to believe you don't know what's real what's fake it's okay you're never meant to know what's real and what's fake outside of you the fact that we lived many years and decades believing the news wow that was a luxury but that was not a necessity not a

10:48 necessity you don't need to know what's going on with trump beyond a point you don't need to know his diagnosis you don't need to know who's going to win the election you see we think our equilibrium depends on who wins the election i mean i'll only me personally just like die you know if it doesn't go how i want that's all but i know that that is not my big self talking that's my little girl talking please

11:20 hold it together we cannot have a repeat of the past four years but that's just my little girl my big self knows that my equilibrium doesn't depend on who wins the election in america my little girl yes but my big self no so i'm talking to your big self right now okay your big self even though 23 and a half hours of the day i'm in my little self looking up poles you know just

11:50 holding my together okay but half an hour i'm in my big self so i'm going to talk to your big self okay because right now on sunday and in viral wisdom oh i'm in my big self at least i hope so what does my big self tell me and that's what i'm going to tell you big self says no i know you think that your happiness depends on the other person on who gets elected as president but

12:18 it doesn't it's an illusion because today it's this tomorrow it's that the problem is never the person on the outside damn it it's always your attachment to what you think you need from the outside person so my attachment 23 hours of the day is to really seriously believe that my happiness depends on who gets elected as president and i'm partly correct but i'm not fully correct and wisdom comes in understanding all of

12:49 it so really we want to believe that our happiness depends on our partner on our children's happiness on the weighing machine on how someone thinks we are on the other person's opinion of us it does not is it an annoyance is it a problem yes but our happiness our inner joy our inner self-esteem our inner worth sorry to say never depends on the outside never never never ever what does this mean

13:20 this means we have to grow up and take responsibility if we're anxious it's because of something on the inside if we're worried it's because of our unresolved wounds if we're panicking it's us and it's so easy to call the other one a jackass so easy to call the other one an ignorant rabbit's moronic buffoon baboon so easy but still that may be true that they are completely buffoonery

13:53 clownish idiotic morons true true true but it doesn't still allow you to depend on them for your sense of worth them for your happiness the only holy grail the last crucible the last meal the last point of no return is you is you is you is you is you and no matter what no one can take your inner worth away so if you're giving it to someone

14:25 else and you're blaming someone else and you're in your delusion thinking ah it's mostly the other person no it isn't it just isn't the fact that you're with the other person brings it back to you the fact that you're allowing this other person to be in your inner terrain to be in your inner real estate is you is you so look at your causes and effects all the things that you set up in your life your cause your effect

14:54 your cause your effect and take accountability if your life isn't working out right now and if you're losing your all over the place and yes the other person is a buffoon and the other one is a and the other one is a liar and the other one is a narcissistic sociopath psychopath all true but it doesn't matter the fact that you're allowing them in your inner space is on you and the fact that you're nervous and your

15:20 inner equilibrium depends on them ultimately is on you because if you want to live a life of joy a life of power a life of vivacity vitality you have to take it in your control life will not give it to you life will take it away in fact because that's the nature of life life is unabashedly brutally neutrally cruel

15:52 because it just is it's cruel only because we are attached it just is cruel in terms of its impermanence because of its impermanence it feels like it's personally cruel but it isn't life just is our elected officials didn't get elected by angels and nymphs and goblins no the elected officials in america got elected because of millennia of cause and effect cause and effect cause and effect

16:23 it just didn't happen that we have a racist president no no no no it happened because america's causes and effects led to that similarly if you right now in your life are unhappy with your boss it's not just your boss it's your causes and effects that created you and your boss similarly with your partner similarly with your eating with your health with your children it just didn't come to be because you are you know ill-fated or

16:54 you have bad luck or poor you no none of it you are an active co-creator america is an active co-creator with its elected officials no such thing is just on its own so when will you take responsibility for your part on the global and in the micro so start with the micro all you can really control is you and what does that really mean is wake up wake up to how your anxiety is acting

17:26 out how your anxiety is out of control it's your anxiety and where does your anxiety come from from lack of healing lack of consciousness right when we are unhealed within we vomit on the outside and when the nation is unhealed from within it's a shitshow when our health is not healing we have a pandemic when our mental health hasn't healed we have a global crisis

17:57 like we are having right now when our inner racism and bigotry is not fully healed we have the black lives matter movement what to do nothing is just in this moment everything has been carefully co-created and co-constructed over millennia and that's where we come in with renewed consciousness to disrupt the pattern now disrupting a pattern takes so much courage it takes

18:28 looking in the mirror and saying you know what i am part of this i am part of this madness in my life in the global life in america's life in my kids life i am part of it so how can i clean myself up i have to start with me my biases my stereotypes my projections my displacements me i have to heal me am i a purveyor of compassion am i a purveyor of love and let me tell you

19:01 love and compassion doesn't exist without consciousness love and compassion doesn't exist without compassionate conscious boundaries you have to stop putting that cookie in your mouth you have to stop yelling and screaming at your children and your partner you have to stop acting out and you have to create boundaries against those who act out in your life so turn off the social media turn off the news turn off when you see somebody on the news that is spewing

19:31 garbage stop taking it into your inner terrain create boundaries for once and for all create boundaries against your own inner unconsciousness and against the unconsciousness of others so this is what it means to disrupt patterns patterns cannot be disrupted by you saying you know i wish for a favorable outcome in the election i wish people would just start loving each other i just wish he would stop doing that yeah it's great to wish but wish

20:02 is apathetic wish is listless wish wishing is passive wishing and hoping and praying and you know passive what is a conscious what is a conscious way you can be an activator of change conscious activism is not passively going i wish no it's first taking conscious action in your own life how can you be a conscious activator of your own healing first if you are on edge if you are

20:35 anxious if you are operating out of injustice you are then adding to the pool of unconsciousness in the world so first clean your own self up heal yourself let go of the toxicity in your own life create boundaries say stop start cleaning your own inner terrain are you living a life of alignment are you living a life of purpose are you saying no to toxic elements in your own life within yourself and outside of yourself

21:06 are you doing that on a daily basis if you care about the globe if you care about the earth if you care about america's politics if you're in america you are lying if you first haven't cared about the state of your own internal affairs so don't care about what's happening on the global scale don't care about what's happening out there care about your own inner stuff don't care about the racist outside care about the racist inside don't care about bigotry on the

21:38 outside care about the bigot on the inside don't care about ill health outside care about your own inner health first clean yourself up you cannot be a conscious activist if you are spewing illiteracy and unconsciousness from within so conscious activism requires psychological healing on the inside spiritual growth you cannot talk the talk without doing

22:09 the inner work and this is a wake-up call to create the boundary within your own acting out inner self and the inner self of other people who have been acting out around you say stop no more no more enabling behavior no more enabling unconsciousness speak up but from truth from higher truth from big mind not from your small mind right now i'm trying to be in a big mind sometimes i mess up but i try

22:40 at least with you to wake up the big mind in us all and the big mind is to not be dependent on anything on the outside for your worth for your joy when you begin to clean your own inner soul spirit essence up you cannot act out you understand all this acting out in all these rallies people protesting people yelling people spewing hate all it really is is a reflection of the

23:10 inner dis array when you are aligned inside you cannot hurt anyone on the outside but it doesn't mean you don't create a boundary it doesn't mean you don't say no but no it's not a violent act no is sacred say no no more to yourself and to others saying no more to your own inner unconsciousness and to the unconsciousness of others is not an

23:41 act of violence it is a sacred act of truth but hating spewing hate spewing unconsciousness now that is violence so the people out there who are being violent right now who are not propagators of peace and compassion is only because they are so divided on the inside so divided so i'm asking for us to understand them have compassion

24:11 compassion doesn't mean you marry them compassion doesn't mean you give them money compassion only means you understand that they are operating out of unconsciousness so you don't participate in the unconsciousness the other day somebody was very unconscious in my life very very very 100 on a scale from 100 100. so i had to really activate big mind and go do i want to participate in the same level of unconsciousness no i don't but how do i

24:43 put an end to this well i have to create conscious boundaries i say no but i don't engage it's very hard to say no more but you don't stoop that to that level of vibration very hard that is conscious activism people always ask me how do we say no more no more no more no more without stooping to a low level of vibration conscious activism is staying high

25:14 saying no creating a boundary but no violence no hatred oh it's so hard to do it's so hard to do my mother made me promise i bet you she's watching she's like promise me say sue pinky swear pinky promise she doesn't believe me obviously you will not see anything mean about anybody you know who no mean things so i'm like i won't i won't because my higher self my bigger self

25:44 knows that he is not the problem he is the symptom of the bigger problem and the bigger problem is a symptom of the micro problem so at the end the answer is me is me me me you you you i'm pointing it out to you and that's why this book is so amazing because it teaches your kids how to manage the anxiety no seriously i know it feels like the whole viral wisdom was geared to market this book it isn't

26:13 this is the book all my work is aligned so every book i write is the perfect book it is my next book perfect book why because i'm writing from alignment sorry but i am so this book is perfect it's for your kids it's for parents to transform anxiety into courage confidence and resilience if our president had this book if his inner child read this book he would understand that he's just a very anxious lost soul

26:44 that's all he's not an evil person per se he reacts in evil ways to his inner lostness so can we parents teach our children to deal with their anxiety please so they don't grow up to be anything like that but we parents need to do that first yes we need to handle our own inner anxiety superpower get the book now okay so i want us all to be in big mind now it is time for us to shift the gear we

27:14 said how much we don't like this don't like him don't like her we said it i said it a million times but the point is not that now the point is for each one of us to heal if we don't heal the outside is not going to heal this is the sad truth about consciousness the parliament will not heal the senate will not heal the government will not heal because it each each body consists of individual

27:39 consciousnesses no so the individual consciousness doesn't change how is the global consciousness going to change and who is the individual consciousness you and me so we speak up we speak up from consciousness we say no more from consciousness but no more violence no more hatred no more bigotry no more acting out basically we take care of our inner children what you're seeing out there in the global pandemic in terms of leadership is little children toddlers leading

28:08 america at least so we have toddler consciousness in america i say this all the time toddler consciousness maximum teenage consciousness once in a while but an out of control crazy teenager on drugs yes that's what we have right now in the leadership in america right and we're like dying here waiting for the teenager to grow up it's not going to happen we have to grow up the teenager was put in charge by other toddlers you see by other toddlers

28:38 who were in their unconsciousness they chose a toddler so where are the rest of us if we think we're so adults if we think we're so amazing where are we we have to speak up and we have to speak up from a higher vibration because if we enter toddler consciousness as yummy as toddler consciousnesses because what is toddler consciousness toddler consciousness is i hate you i'm going to kill you i'm going to grab your toys and destroy

29:03 them i i'd be why why why toddler why would you destroy my toys because i don't like you um that's not a reason toddler what's the real inner reason because i hate you um that's not the real reason that's like very immature and primitive well because you are the cause of all my problems i know toddler but what's the real you're talking to a toddler right how can you talk to a toddler but that is toddler consciousness

29:30 and we are all prone to enter toddler consciousness when they're toddlers ruling the country now when the parents are toddlers the children it's hard to grow up but i'm saying we can grow up we have to grow up we have to raise the bar we have to raise the vibration we have to understand that at no point can we act out anymore so in our personal lives and in our global lives we cannot act out let the other person

29:55 act out let them go nuts you just say no no more no more create a boundary but no more hatred no more violence no more fear because what we're seeing on the global level is global fear right the real pandemic is fear the real pandemic is racism the real pandemic is our mental illness here here so it is a wake-up call like no other this is not about your kids this is not about their school this is

30:23 not about the grades and the teachers it's not about college and the sat this is about our mental health we are having a mental health crisis in america what you're seeing in america i don't know what the other countries see looking at us in america but what i see is a mental health shitshow crisis okay we are in crisis here not the covet crisis a mental health crisis in america we are seeing the sickness of our mental health now that's what

30:53 crisis does now all of you out there not in america in america experiencing loss experiencing death experiencing transitions i know my family is experiencing a huge loss of someone it's time to bond it's time to connect it's time to come together it's time to cohese it's time to rise right and this is what i tell my family all the time it's time for all of us it's time for all of us to connect and this is the global answer to

31:20 any crisis connection not disconnection but you understand why there's this connection it's very clear to me there's disconnection because there's acute anxiety when there's acute anxiety we tend to disconnect that's why i get this book when you take care of your own inner anxiety you have compassion you have healing you connect but if you're out of control in anxiety you will disconnect so if anyone listening to this had in the last two weeks or more a

31:52 moment of utter acting out utter insanity utter insane projection displacement of feelings to the other to the outside please wake up and realize it was your inner anxiety and therefore you need to heal you have to heal you cannot go around vomiting on yourself or on others on the global level this is what is happening in america at least global or or domestic international domestic international and domestic vomiting

32:24 right but here in america we see it so acutely it's a pandemic of projectile vomit unconscious inner vomit how many ways can i say it i i'm just keeping on repeating myself because i want us to wake up we're all vomiting until we heal individual by individual by individual by individual the greatest gift you can give this pandemic back the greatest gift you can give the earth back the greatest gift you can give your

32:54 children back is take a self-help course take your tush to therapy get a coach get help we need help do we not understand we need help and what is the answer psychological awareness psychological healing i'm not saying it because i'm a psychologist but i became a psychologist because i understood if we're not whole from inside no point for economic prosperity for uh

33:24 any sort of technological prosperity if we are psychologically unhealthy and we are psychologically so unhealthy families are falling apart divorces are abounding rape incest why because we're psychologically so effed up so what is the solution psychological health how do you get psychological health you take your ass into a into a meditation retreat you go to therapy you ask your friends for help you say i

33:56 need help i'm in trouble i'm acting out too much drop the facade get into your vulnerability get help and for the those of us who are working on ourselves every day and if we have unconscious people in our lives it's time to say no go get help we can only solve this through psychological healing there is no other answer the problem is a severance between mind and heart

34:26 the problem is that our heart has been buried under hate the heart is under hate until we recover the heart we will not resurrect ourselves or the nation and the only way is therapy healing coaching self-help i don't know what you want to call it go do it meditation so i offer meditation courses self-help courses but i have another program that we're going to i'm going to talk about right now if you email info info

34:58 at dr shafali.com and put in the subject help i have counselors who are willing to give you 30 minutes of a free consultation to then decide if they can help you and then you may have to pay them but you can talk to my counselors my coaches from my coaching institute so we have created this program and we've helped hundreds of people hashtag help write to info dr shafali.com now we cannot take everybody if you're too serious a problem or

35:29 you're really falling apart we would recommend you go to someone else so get help start taking your healing seriously meditate self-care self-help coaching therapy medication what a retreat whatever you need to do recognize your anxiety may be out of control you may need help this is the time to ask for help and get my book superpower because your kids are feeling anxious and they need help and for those of you

36:00 who have got the book spread the word take a picture tag it superpower it hashtag superpowered leave a review on amazon get super powered everyone thank you all for listening i just wanted to wake you all up in a gentle way to go get help if you need it bye everyone thank you for listening to my viral wisdom number 66. i will see you when i see you